Sunday, November 4, 2007

3 Months Old...Lessons Learned

We are fastly approaching the 3 month mark and as cliche as it sounds, I can't remember my life before these girls were in it. Every day presents its own set of challenges and we are prepared for that to be the case for the next 18 years or so. I've learned a lot about myself, we've learned a lot as parents and about life in the last 3 months. Here are some lessons learned.

1. You can love on a different level. Everyone says this, but it is true, I can honestly say that I have a deeper capacity to love since they were born. And just when you think you can't love them anymore, you figure out that you do.

2. Nothing is worse than having a sick baby. We battled feeding issues basically from the beginning. This was not something I blogged much about because I figured with all the really sick babies in the world, I was blessed with a couple that have acid reflux (atleast that was the final diagnosis after countless trips to the peds office). But this meant that they were fussy babies for a good part of the first 8 weeks we had them home. We changed formula, medications, schedules, formula again, bottles, etc, all with the mindset that whatever they recommended was worth a try. I think we have the issues figured out now, but not after I had some serious meltdowns and a few outside interventions about postpartum depression. But the fact is, when your 7 week old baby is projectile vomiting and you can't figure out how to make it better--it breaks your heart. So, the lesson learned here is that if these girls are going to be half as accident prone or pick up half the infections I did as a kid, I've gotta get thicker skin.

3. It really does take a village. Between my girlfriends, Jeremy's family and my parents, everyone has had a hand in getting these girls to their 3 month birthday! The truth is 4 (or 6 or 8) hands are better than 2. Jeremy's job requires sporadic hours and with the building market where it is, he's working twice as hard as ever before. He is around as much as he possibly can be, but when he isn't around I know I can call on his grandparents or parents. My sorority sister Becky has been a godsend because she's also a nurse and talks through my "stupid questions" and comes to the rescue on her days off from the hospital. Then there is my mom, she has basically moved in to take care of the girls on the 2 1/2 days a week I'm back at work. I honestly don't know how people have baby twins without a whole lot of help!

4. We will never be on time anywhere again. I am a very punctual person and nothing irritates me more than people who are always late. Now for the confession, I've become one of them. Even if I start getting everyone ready 2 hours before we have to be out the door, someone spits up, poops or screams and we never make it out when we should. The lesson learned here is--get over it.

5. Somedays, we just don't want to have our picture taken...

6. We should have slept more before the girls were born, if only you could store the extra hours on a good night and cash them in on a bad night...

7. We should have saved more before the girls were born, we knew they'd be expensive, but wow, shopping for myself has become a thing of the past.

8. They can change your day. Jeremy or I can come home after a long, exhausting day at work and after one of them is in your arms for a minute and flashes a smile your way...nothing else matters.

9. We are so grateful.

Lastly, we round out the year of the babies with the birth of Jack Watko. Gretchen & Paul are the proud parents of a perfect 7 lb. 3 oz. baby boy! Welcome to the world Jack...


Megs said...

The girls are adorable. I can't get enough of them. It's amazing how time flys, next thing you know, we will be tailgating at their college of choice(IU).

Catherine said...

My little girls are working the classic white onsies:) How can they get more gorgeous every week? I do not know, but they do! Perhaps they are getting excited for their Aunt Cat to visit and for the Reign of Polyester to end?

Jeremy when I see that picture of them screaming I can only imagine that they have seen a picture of themselves in those horrendous colts jerseys:( I would cry as well, I might even projectile vomit a little;)

Anyway in just two short weeks I will be re-arranging their closets and dressing them in the cutest dresses ever! I freaking cannot wait to get my hands on their little feet and put them in patent mary janes:) It is never too early to start to learn how to walk in heels:) They are related to me-they might not be tall! A - I cannot wait to see you:) Sometimes I just cannot believe my baby sister is a mom:) But I know for sure that Addy and Lilly won the mom lottery:)

Christina said...

Aimee, I love this post. You are such a good mom (the learning curve is steep for one newborn, and you've aced it now with two!) and your girls are absolutely beautiful.

jillian said...

Great post! I love hearing your stories and you tell them so well. I will hopefully remember all of this advice down the road.

They get more adorable every day!Can't wait to see you all (and stay with you and the girls!) over Christmas. The pictures are great.